

Circle the anus with the finger, glide it gently in and out of the anus, then add another finger.Īfter your butt is comfortable with a couple of fingers, slather your plug in lube and slowly slide it inside you. Next, start with something smaller than a plug: Lube up your finger, or ask your partner if you can borrow theirs. Instead of going straight for the ass, try a few other activities you enjoy, like oral sex, to get your body turned on and receptive to a new kind of stimulation. How do I get the plug in my butt…and take it out?įirst, don't neglect foreplay. We recommend Maude's Shine Organic Lube ($18), Überlube ($24), and Good Clean Love Almost Naked Lube ($7). But if you're new to butt plugs, start with silicone, as the material has more give than glass or stainless steel.

Glass or stainless steel butt plugs work wonderfully with any lubricant. If you're using a silicone toy, grab a water-based lube. Here's the thing about silicone lubes, though: They're awesome for butt stuff because they're thick and tend to last longer than water-based varieties, but silicone breaks down silicone. Oil-based lubes, including at-home options such as coconut oil, break down latex, but water- and silicone-based lubes do not. And if you're using a butt plug with multiple partners, practice safer sex by putting a condom on it and using a non-oil-based lube before each use, advises Ortmann. What should I know about lube?Īgain, the rectum doesn't self-lubricate, so you're going to have to help it out. The bottom line is that anal pleasure through butt plugs is something anyone can enjoy. In fact, solo sex is a lovely way to explore anal play. That said, you don't need a partner to enjoy butt plugs - they make for excellent masturbation companions. Many people love receiving oral while they have a butt plug in. You can also simultaneously stimulate your clit with fingers or a vibrator. If you have a vagina, the butt plug is also a wonderful way to experience double penetration: Slide one in after applying lube and wear it during vaginal sex with a penis or dildo. ("I like to make submissives suck on the butt plug that I'm going to use on them," Ortmann says.) An advanced user may wear a butt plug for several hours, or out in public. Some within the BDSM community use them as part of dominance and submission (D/s) play. Can butt plugs be used for more than anal sex preparation?Īnal sex warm-up is far from the only use for plugs. After all, you can't return a used butt plug. I don't think I got that thing inside of me for another decade." If you're a total beginner, start with the smallest size available and work your way up. "I remember buying my first one and thinking, This is a good medium size. "Pick one that looks ludicrously small to you," Ortmann says. If unsafe toys can stain my underwear, what else can they harm? "Cheaper toys might be made of chemicals that can leach into your body," Schmit states.Īnother butt plug rule of thumb: Start small, and don't let your eyes get bigger than your butthole. We've witnessed, upon opening our drawers, that a rubber vibrator had leaked pink dye everywhere. Since sex toys are sold as "novelty items," they're more or less unregulated by any federal agency, meaning it's up to you to make sure that materials are safe to put in, on, and around your genitals. In addition to choosing a plug with a flared base, it's important to check that your toy is body-safe.

(Nobody wants to be the person whose story goes viral for ending up in the ER with a butt plug stuck in their bum.) What should I know before buying a butt plug? Since the rectum can act like a vacuum and suck objects inside, a flared bottom, pull cord, or ring prevents a butt plug from getting lost inside you, Ortmann says. They generally have narrow tips that get progressively wider toward the middle and then narrow again to a slim neck at the base so your rectum can contain them comfortably.

Butt plugs are cleverly shaped for their function.
